If each spouse says to the other, “I will treat my selfishness as the main problem in the marriage,” you have the prospect for great things. Tim Keller
If it is important to your wife make it important to you
Is my wife more like Christ because she is married to me? Or in spite of being married to me?
I want my wife & kids to see Jesus big in me
The purpose of marriage is to make each other more holy vs. more happy. Gary Thomas
Whenever you are in a conflict…what % of this problem do I own?
When reality doesn’t meet expectations what do you put in the gap?
Find the most generous explanation for each other’s behavior and believe it. In other words always give each other the benefit of the doubt.
Couples that pray together stay together. Form habit of praying out loud together
Love your wife in her language not your own; words of affirmation and gifts
The key to a strong Relationship with your spouse: focus on Becoming the right kind of person
How do you get a good spouse? Deserve it.
Couples don’t fall out of love so much as they fall out of repentance. Gary Thomas
A good marriage isn’t something you find, it’s something you make. Gary Thomas
Your SONS will likely grow up to be just like YOU.
Your DAUGHTERS will likely grow up to marry men like YOU.
Be the kind of man I want my daughter to marry
Be the kind of man I want my sons to be
Men; be the spiritual thermostat in your family. Thermostat sets the temperature. Thermometer just tells you what the temperature is.
Secret to happiest marriages: Find the most generous explanation for each other’s behavior and believe it.
Tell yourself a positive, hopeful & optimistic narrative when reality doesn’t meet expectations. Always give benefit of the doubt.
Always believe your spouse is trying their best
Show lots of grace because Lord knows I need it in return.
There are only 2 unique roles I play in life;
1. First Husband to Linda
2. Father to my kids
Don’t trade a replaceable role for these irreplaceable roles.
No amount of success at work can make up for failure at home
Marriage hacks; when u begin to criticize say a sincere compliment instead. Hug and kiss and touch every day. How can I add value to my wife? Believe the best in your thoughts. Surprise gifts. Surprise notes. Surprise dates. Act like her boyfriend; try hard at it.
“People who are driven to excel have this unconscious propensity to under-invest in their families and over-invest in their careers—even though intimate and loving relationships with their families are the most powerful and enduring source of happiness.” Clayton Christiansen