The 10 secrets; (1) you are the most important man in her life, (2) she needs a hero, (3) you are her first love,(4)  teach her humility, (5) protect her, (6) defend her, (7) pragmatism and grit: two of your greatest assets, (8) be the man you want her to marry, (9) teach her who God is, (10)  teach her to fight, keep her connected. Fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for a daughter’s life.  Your daughter needs the best of who you are: your strength, your courage, your intelligence, and your fearlessness.  She needs your empathy, assertiveness, [...]

Maturity in the Lord is a prerequisite to maturity in marriage. Every husband is in a position of inescapable leadership.  If he attempts to abdicate in some way, he may, through his rebellion, lead poorly. One of the central difficulties we face in our culture today is the general “wimping out” of the Christian men.  Men have abdicated their God-given strength, leadership, and authority. The Bible teaches that a minimalistic approach to doctrine should be an embarrassment for older Christians.  The question is not, “How little can I know and still get to heaven?”  The question for husbands is, “Given [...]

The biggest challenges our kids will face: What is my mission in life going to be? Who is my mate going to be? Who is my master going to be? Put another way: What am I going to do with my life?  Who will I spend my life with?  Who will I live it for? God has not called us to raise safe kids; He’s called us to raise strong ones. He hasn’t called us to raise popular kids; He’s called us to raise spiritually potent ones. True greatness: grace that demonstrates itself in the attitudes of humility and gratefulness [...]

Fathers today are coming up short with their sons at three critical points We have failed to deliver to our sons a clear, inspiring, biblically grounded definition of manhood. Most fathers lack a directional process that calls their sons to embrace the manhood they should be able to define. A third shortcoming involves the loss of ceremony.  How many dads today think of formally commemorating their son’s progress or passage into manhood?  There is no place in our culture where boys are initiated consciously into manhood. Every son needs from his father vision, direction, and solid answers to questions such [...]

According to researchers, between 70-88 percent of Christian teens are leaving the church by their second year in college. Modern American Christianity has a failure rate somewhere around eight (almost nine) out of ten when it comes to raising children who continue in the faith. Our children are falling away because we are asking the church to do what God designed the family to accomplish.  Discipleship and multi-generational faithfulness begins and ends at home. God has designed your family—not the youth group, not the children’s ministry, not the Christian school, but your family—as the principal discipling agent in your children’s [...]